Stop striving for perfection, understand that you are perfect in your imperfections, and that your flaws are the construct, which shape your human experience. And that my friend is a beautiful thing.
Stop searching externally for self worth and love. Stop looking for it in friends, partners, parents, society, status or anything in between. Instead look within, and find the inner peace where you are comfortable and at peace with yourself, and where most importantly you see your self worth and respect your beautiful soul.
Stop trying to “take” from the world. Understand that meaning comes not from being served, but in serving others. Being able to help others is the most gratifying, rewarding, and meaningful experience you could ever imagine. Although it’s counterintuitive, remember that giving does more for you than the person you give to.
Stop seeking inconsequential definitions of success that society has conditioned you to believe. Success is just the accomplishment of an aim or purpose. It is not represented by numbers in a bank account, cars in a garage, status within society, or other people’s approval and jealousy of you. True success in life is letting go of that conditioning and finding that which brings you and others you love joy. It is living an authentic and actualized life. It’s creating genuine connections with genuine people. It’s living in tune with nature and our hearts. It’s feeling moments of utter unimaginable inexplicable bliss. It’s laughing till you cry, loving till you hurt, falling till you rise, challenging your belief systems, living a life of intention, and being the happiest, healthiest most fulfilled version of yourself you can be.
Stop holding onto the past so religiously. Although you have been through much pain and suffering, operating from that mindset isn’t serving you in the present. The negativity your holding onto permeates and colours your daily interactions in such a subtle manner it’s barely noticeable, but it’s there and it affects you. Trust me, it does.
Stop comparing yourself with others, because well, that makes zero sense. You are you, and that’s all you can be. So just be you.
Stop fixating on your flaws, and move towards celebrating your attributes.
Stop fearing the unknown and the future. For if you do, you will spend your whole life in fear, and well no one wants to live that way. Fear serves no one, least of all you. Because what is it that you’re afraid of? Is it the mistakes you will inevitably make, the people you may hurt, the opportunities you may miss, the people who may judge you? Those eventualities will happen whether or not you fear them so you might as well embrace them. Embrace the lessons you can learn from them, embrace the necessity of them, and embrace the way in which those events will colour and shape your story. The energy wasted worrying about the future and unknown is nothing more than that, wasted energy. Now I’m not saying to be fearless, for most of us, fear comes with the territory of being a human, but what I am saying is: don't let that fear paralyze you. Feel the fear, accept it, and live anyways, stray from convention anyways, do what you love anyways, make a decision anyways, change your life anyways, love anyways, be vulnerable and honest anyways, take a chance anyways, and don't let that fear prevent you from living. I believe wholeheartedly, that if you follow your bliss, the right doors will open for you, and if you let your bliss guide you, you will inevitably end up where you were meant to be. However be forewarned, that right path may not look like the right one in the moment.
Stop perpetuating your fear of missing out (FOMO). You are exactly where you need to be right now, so stop thinking about what you COULD have been doing, the people you could have met, the experiences you could have had, the lessons you could have learned, the money you could have made/saved, the happiness you could have experienced. Instead remember and dwell in the memories you ARE making right now, and revel in the beauty that, those experiences are exactly what you are meant to be experiencing right now.
Stop overdramatizing things in your life. Nothing is as important or dire as it seems. When you adopt perspective you realize that you are but one person on this planet, which is but one blue speck in a quiet tucked away corner of our vast and infinite universe.
Stop fixating on inconsequential things in life. Remember that there is so much more that defines you than your career, your aesthetics, your wealth, your social status, or your power. Cultivate those aspects of you that are actually definitive of who you are. Invest in your ability to love, to appreciate and to serve. Be proud of your sense of humour, willingness to grow, and passion for adventure. Appreciate your inquisitive mind and curious soul. And keep working on your love for yourself and your love for others.
Stop underselling yourself, understand that you are beautiful, you are worthy of love, and you are incredible. Don’t be afraid to think so or say so.
Stop judging and criticizing others, instead look within and focus on self-growth and betterment.
Stop letting yourself be swayed by others. Stay true to your principles and act in a way that you would be proud of. Stand up for your beliefs, and don’t feel obliged to “people please.”
Stop mistreating those you love most. Although you know that they will always love you and always be there for you, that is not permission for you to disrespect them, be ungrateful of them, and disregard their impact on your life.
Stop following what you THINK you want, and start following what you FEEL you want.
Stop living your life for others, and start living your life for you. Don’t’ just go through the motions in life, actually live. Start right now, in this second, today. Because life is for living, so go out there and live it.