In some ways I feel like our man made expectations of our lives are the perfect example of how our intelligence as a species is both our greatest asset & our greatest undoing. In our world of Nicholas Sparks novels & idealized movies, we can adapt a very distorted view on our reality. We expect love to be a guy buying a star for us & expect to find magic in the form of pixie dust to fly to Neverland or become a mermaid. And beyond movies/novels is our media. When we view things like health & happiness we expect it to look like beautiful fruit platters, running in lulu shorts with no sweat & perfect hair on a sunny day. AND we expect to get there right away. What we don’t expect is ugly ass oats, rainy miserable days & a lifelong journey of making mistakes & learning.
So although inherently we know our lives aren’t curated IG feeds or movies we can still expect things from life that it can’t deliver. We compare our reality to our expectation of our reality & in doing so we take ourselves out of experiencing our lives in the moment as they are. We’ve let something that isn’t bothering us bother us because we expect something else. It’s like we’ve created a problem where none existed to begin with.
So perhaps the key is just changing our perspective on our expectations.
Maybe love is best conveyed in just a humble hug & magic is found in the sun rising. Maybe this life, our life, your life is already full of wonder. Maybe life’s just about being here on this blue orb experiencing all the hurt, struggle, love & happiness this world has to offer.
I’m sitting in a café eating 2 vegan muffins sippin on chai tea while gazing out the window at this beautiful little boy. He’s looking around wide eyed & giddy, dipping his fingers in his moms latte, marveling then licking up the foam, watching words come out of his loving family with curiosity in his eyes as if each word is a miracle. He’s pointing & shouting at birds flying across the perfectly blue sky asking where they’re going.
Maybe in his eyes just breathing, talking, seeing flying magical creatures & tasting caffeinated foam is enough to instill wonder in him. Maybe we all need some of his perspective in our lives.